You can manually set memory settings, yes. By default, BIOSs use an automatic timing function known as SPD (Serial Presence Detect) to configure these timings. You should be able to use "manual" settings instead and configure the numbers appropriately.
Thanks for all your input guys.
dcc, Ive got the Thunder K8WE, which as far as my product lit says, will accept the memory I purchased. Also, the pairs are matched (serial numbers are sequential A+B in CPU-Z)
I think I'll avoid resetting the SPD timings right now, given that we shelled out about 10 grand for the functional unit.
I've broken enough 'things' in the past to know better at this point.
thanks for all your input, all of you.
gkd